When you are ready you may choose to tell the other member your real contact details.
Even if that latter category sounds appealing to you, remember that people blithely (or desperately) looking for a squeeze between the sheets can put more earnest daters off.
OKC may have a high member count, but a lot of women find its barrage of sex requests and outright abuse an instant red flag. One female friend complained to me that she got so many messages per day (most saying “Heyyyy”) she felt that she “was at the centre of a toad knot”.
Long story short, it involved going to her sex dungeon and being locked in a cage while she choked me and her husband relieved himself on me.
The message ended in the most English way imaginable: "Do let me know if that sounds like your cup of tea". Call me a prude, but urine-soaked homoerotic strangulation is not my cup of tea at all.
While members can send or reply with a one-liner, only paying subscribers can write personal custom messages. However, we reserve the right to hide, delete or modify unacceptable profiles.