And if you thought dating a single, uncommitted man was tough, wait till you date a divorced person!
Kids change the equation completely and require much more effort, so if you’re not up to it, let it go from the very beginning! For starters, let’s look at what you need to know when dating a childless individual going through a divorce. The last thing they need is you nagging them; they already had more than enough with their (almost) ex-spouse! Expect a (temporary) pall of gloom Going through a divorce isn’t a walk in the park; and if the ex is like those vengeful psychos you see onscreen, then it’s certainly a walk through hell!
It’s easier than with kids, but you may have some other things to deal with. You may have to deal with some irrationality An individual in the process of getting a divorce is sort of in no man’s land and they may feel at sea when it comes to understanding their current status. So while your date is officially separated and ready to see new people, they may not be cheerful and optimistic all the while, so you’ll have to accept the temporary gloom till things are resolved.
Regardless of who is going to get custody of the kids, they’ll still love them more than ever and will want to meet them and generally be a part of their lives.
So don’t be surprised if they’d rather go to their little girl’s recital than to a wine tasting with you.
Trying to win the kids over at this stage is something that you shouldn’t even try; just let their parents deal with them and you can become friends later.