Dating divorced men child
Dating someone who has a child from a previous marriage introduces many complicated issues.
Get your relationship off to a good start by considering these common scenarios. Is it OK to meet him now or should I wait until I have a better feel for the potential of this relationship before making introductions? Most experts agree that you should wait until your relationship shows signs of becoming serious before making introductions.
Your initial reaction to the idea of dating a divorced man might simply be – No thanks! The advantage of dating someone who has already been “down-the-aisle” is that in many aspects of our lives – we make mistakes, learn from them and try NOT to repeat them in the future.
It may be extremely difficult for him to learn to trust again. In most cases, his ex-wife is someone who will – in some way, shape or form! Whether they share kids, he pays her alimony or simply because she was a large part of his life…you have to accept the fact she is likely to show up from time-to-time.
HOWEVER, keep in mind that kids can be very protective and even cruel! Don’t boss them around or act overly ‘motherly’, but do show interest and encourage them in the things they’re good at. Being ‘dad’s new girlfriend’ takes time getting used to, and they’ll probably resent you for taking their mom’s place. And don’t be upset if they don’t immediately like you. Also, keep in mind that the younger the children are, the easier it will be for you to start bonding with them.