However, if a single lady is attracted to a man and finds out they are in a relationship or married, then is this subliminal confirmation that he has all the necessary qualities she is looking for, is he more experienced, is he more committed, is he more desirable now because his wife or partner has already pre screened him?!!
He assured me that his wife was cool with it and that they had a 'don’t ask don’t tell' relationship.
I suggested we tell her multiple times, but he wouldn’t have the courage.
New daring places to have sex such as in the marital home or bed fills this experience with passion and desire in a way not always possible in a regular relationship.
Grabbing sexual encounters when you least expect them can be a huge turn on, these rule breaking, unprotected experiences are very desirable to single women as they are naughty, new, adventurous and no strings attached.
Alternatively there is also the competitive element to consider.